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Avoid Multitasking and Get Focused

Posted by John R. Stoiber on January 18, 2014
Posted in: Uncategorized. Tagged: Focus, High Performance, In the zone, Multitasking, Priorities. Leave a comment

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When was the last time you heard someone talk about how they are always “multitasking?”  It’s like a badge of honor for some people.

Do you consider yourself a “multitasker?”

If you look up the term multitasking on Wikipedia, you will find that this term is actually derived from computer multitasking, where computer instructions are processed at such a high-speed that they effectively appear to be performed at the same time.   In human terms it is really not possible to focus on two things at the same time.

Perhaps we should instead think of multitasking as a lack of ability to focus.

If you think about it, everything we do requires a certain level of focus.   Try this – hold up one finger on both hands simultaneously and see if you can focus on both at the same time.   It cannot be done.   Similarly, you cannot effectively focus on two tasks at the same time and produce positive outcomes.

I think what we really mean when we refer to multitasking is that we are able to shift our focus quickly from one task to another and still achieve great results.   That is very difficult to do.   Each time you make a shift away from a particular task, you create a break point that results in a learning curve (albeit may be a brief one) when you pick the work back up again.   This creates more opportunity for errors, and certainly reduces efficiency.  I would argue that it will ultimately take you more time to complete several tasks handled with multitasking than if you remained focused and completed them in a serial manner.

Focus, and your ability to remain focused, is the key.

I admit that I am not a “multitasker,” but I have learned over the years to create deep focus to accelerate completion of tasks serially, thus creating a sense that I was multitasking.

I have spent many years personally working on the discipline of focus and trying to find ways where I could increase my own performance (in sports, work, time with family, etc.).   You sometimes hear about professional athletes being “in the zone.”   Michael Jordan and Tiger Woods are well-known for their ability to focus and achieve top performance for a sustained period of time.

It’s pretty amazing what you can achieve if you are able to create a discipline around your own focus.   I remember when I was in strategy consulting and had to work in many unusual work environments – in construction trailers, coffee shops, noisy cafeterias, airports, etc. – and the level of focus it took to tune out all the external distractions.   I learned a lot about how to control my focus, and that has remained with me to this day.

I suppose if we were really good at multitasking we could text and drive at the same time – and we know that is not a good idea!  Focus is much better.

Next time you find yourself in a mode where you feel like you are jumping from task to task without driving anything to completion, stop and take a breath.   Then, think about the priority of the tasks and commit to driving each one to completion prior to moving to the next one.  Sure you might be interrupted occasionally, but commit to getting back to the task at hand and you’ll be surprised at how much more you can accomplish in the same amount of time – with better results!  Focus more, and you will achieve more.

I would love to hear your stories of times where you really achieved more through deep focus, and what you did to create and maintain that focus.

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Overcoming the Fear of Failure – Part 4 of 4 – Don’t Give Up

Posted by John R. Stoiber on January 11, 2014
Posted in: Fear of Failure, Uncategorized. Tagged: Failure, Fear, Fear of Failure, giving up, goals, persistence, Success. Leave a comment

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There are certain situations in life and in careers where you may only get one shot to achieve a particular goal.  However, most situations we experience are not life and death situations.  We do get second chances, and the trajectory of success is not always straight up. 

To overcome the fear of failure you must not give up at the first sign of failure.  If you do give up, you will only be further conditioning your fear of failing.  That does not mean you should do the same things and expect different results, but you can change based on what you learn from failure. 

For example, say a particular individual is interviewing at a law firm with the dream of becoming a great attorney.  Suppose the individual is rejected and does not get the job.  If the person looks at the failed interview as an indicator that he or she will not be a great lawyer, then the fear of further rejection will inhibit future success.  The person could very well learn from the experience, change his or her approach to interviewing, and secure an opportunity at a different law firm. 

While persistence will not overcome core talent and limitations in skills, giving up due to the fear of failure will not allow individuals to achieve their full potential.

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Overcoming the Fear of Failure – Part 3 of 4 – Don’t Let Fear Own You

Posted by John R. Stoiber on January 4, 2014
Posted in: Fear of Failure, Uncategorized. Tagged: achieve, achievement, emotion, Failure, Fear, Fear of Failure, Success. Leave a comment

Fear is a very powerful emotion that can lead to high levels of paralysis and inaction in our personal and professional lives.  When naysayers tell a person he or she cannot do something, fear of failing tends to be amplified and false barriers to success are erected.   If you look at a group of talented individuals, many times the only difference in their ability to achieve success is how they manage and control their fear of failure.  Unsuccessful people allow fear to “own” their action.   They make decisions based on the emotion of fear rather than looking at the true risks of failure.

One way to avoid letting fear “own” you, is to separate your emotions from the facts of a particular situation.  Ask yourself the question, “what would I do if I knew I could not fail?”  Write down all of the things that could happen, positive and negative, if you made a particular decision or took a specific action.  Then, without emotion, evaluate the downside risk if things did not go as planned.  Although you may reach the same conclusion to not move forward, the key will be that the decision was made without the emotion of fear.

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Overcoming the Fear of Failure – Part 2 of 4 – You Are Not A Failure

Posted by John R. Stoiber on December 27, 2013
Posted in: Fear of Failure, Uncategorized. Tagged: Failure, Fear, Fear of Failure, Self-esteem, Self-worth, Success. Leave a comment

One of the most important things to understand about overcoming the fear of failure is that failure itself does not mean that you are a failure. People fail at moments in time, but that does not define you as a person from that point forward. Some of the most successful people in the world in business, athletics, or other professions fail.  For these people, failure can teach, motivate and sometimes inspire.  It does not become who they are, but rather it is just something that happened in their success process. They view failure as a setback, but not something that defines their next opportunity to be successful.

For less successful people, failure can begin to impact self-esteem and how a person thinks about their own worth.  If you believe that you are a failure, versus the idea that you experienced a failure in the process of success, you will have allowed fear to take over and you likely will experience more failure.  If you believe you are a loser, there is a good chance your actions and reactions to individual losses will lead you to continued losing.  Therefore, it is critical to separate what you believe you are from what you experience along the path to success. Failure is a moment in time, but success is determined over a lifetime.

 

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Overcoming the Fear of Failure – Part 1 of 4

Posted by John R. Stoiber on December 22, 2013
Posted in: Fear of Failure. Tagged: Failure, Fear, Fear of Failure. Leave a comment

If you have ever had the unique opportunity to observe the behavior and development of young children, you would notice something astounding.  Young children have little or no fear of failure.  They are keen to explore new places, engage in new activities, and attempt physical feats that can make the heart of a parent skip a beat.  Children have a bold curiosity for the unknown, and concerns about risk or failure rarely enter their minds.

However, as children develop they begin to learn to fear failure. Parents often tell them “no” or quickly shelter them from the risk of negative outcomes, such as injury, disappointment or losing a game.  On the one hand, teaching kids to be smart about what risks they should not take, such as touching a hot stove, can benefit their development and allow them to make more informed decisions. On the other hand, parents who do not allow children to experience some types of failure may condition them into thinking that failure is unacceptable or that they are entitled to succeed.  This is common in youth sports today where many kids receive trophies even if they are on the losing team.  In this case, children will be conditioned to think that there is no such thing as failure, and it will lead to a greater fear of failure as adults.

By the time most people reach adulthood, they have had many years of conditioning around the fear of failure.  Those who grew up in very protective environments may have larger fears of failure, while those who experienced more failure will often take greater risks and be less fearful of negative outcomes.  In either case, the fear of failure can be one of the biggest limiting factors in achieving personal success as an adult, whether it is a career, a personal aspiration or life in general.  However, with the right focus adults can learn to control and even overcome their conditioned fears of failure to achieve things they never thought were possible.

While most people will never completely overcome all fear of failure, there are some important skills and behaviors that one must focus on and develop in order to reduce that fear or even harness failure to create a higher level of success.  Over the coming weeks we will take a journey through different approaches to overcoming the fear of failure, but it all starts with recognizing and embracing failure as part of the success process.  Although many of us have heard the saying before that “failure is not an option,” my hypothesis is that failure truly is not an option, but rather it is a necessity for achieving at a high level.

– J Stoiber

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    I have grown up with a belief that we can all achieve more than what we might initially think is possible. Achievement is relative, and not just about being the richest, most popular, or the one with the most recognition. Great achievement goes on around us every day, through every day people. My goal in this blog is share ideas, wisdom, and stories related to the experiences I have observed through others, some experiences of my own, and relevant thoughts from others that will help each of us maximize our achievement potential. While my focus and perspective is broad, I am also particularly keen on two things as it relates to achieving high levels of success. The first is overcoming fear in everything we set out to do, and the second is embracing failure as part of our success process. I invite you to follow me on this journey as we explore our path to high achievement.

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